Nobody is listening. We always feel that people are listening to the words coming out of our mouth. In reality people are not captivated by what you say, but they are captivated by your energy. It is never what you say, it’s the energy behind that matters.
Makes sure that you are calm before you start talking. It takes the pressure off. If there was a single public speaking tip, that would be to listen to your voice, your rhythm and your pace. Many people talk too fast and that’s why they become nervous.
Once you slow down you tune into your energy; and when people listen to you they have an emotional connection that hits them right in the stomach. Nobody is listening to you, they are feeling you.
Here are 5 essential public speaking tips that you have to practice if you want to become am incredible speaker.
Keep it simple
It doesn’t matter how many books you’ve read or how intelligent you want to sound by showing all of the data and research that you’ve done.
Slow down instead. Make sure that you are expressing how you really feel. You have to realize that it’s not about what you say but how you say it. But mostly, if you enjoy what you are talking about.
With public speaking comes fear, doubt and disbelief. Confidence can be expressed in the voice. Confidence is knowing what you are talking about.
Don’t just talk about what you don’t know what you are talking about
Study your subject matter to the core and know who you are talking to. Also, you have to remember that nervousness is contagious. If you are nervous, who’s listening to you will feel the same. When you relax, people relax.
Whenever you are doing public speaking, you always have to trust yourself. The reason why so many people feel nervous when they are talking publicly is because they doubt themselves, and that comes across in the message they are sharing.
Confidence is all about the message.
It’s not about being super emotional. It’s about being super authentic. The more you tune into your true authenticity, the more people can relate to you. The more you share your experiences and life stories, and not just researched data, the more people will be captivated to you.
Getting personal is not easy. You have to be vulnerable and put yourself out there. The more you open up, the more other people open up to you. Being personal is about letting go.
Once you loosen the body, it allows your voice to convey your true message. The diction, the tone of your voice. These things play a powerful role in public speaking. Public speaking is not about just playing it safe.
There is always something that you want to talk about but you are scared. When you can talk about what you are afraid to talk about, that becomes captivating and that is what so many people are interested in. Once you start to take risk once, then you can do it twice, and now you have even more confidence with your public speaking.
When you smile, people smile. When you frown, people frown. Whatever energy you are experiencing, it’s the same energy other people are. Obviously you can’t control other people. Whenever you are publicly speaking always ask yourself, “How is my own energetic state?”.
To have fun is not about showing everyone how perfect you are. Great public speaking is about exposing your flaws, being able to laugh at yourself but also enjoying the actual experience instead of the outcome.
Public speaking is not about convincing, it’s about sharing and giving another perspective. Don’t forget to smile and to remind yourself why you are doing it.