Sometimes the smallest things can make us feel down and out. There are times when someone asks you “How are you?”, and you don’t feel like answering and just say “I’m fine”.
The reason why it’s not good to answer “I am fine”, whenever you feel down and out, is because you are essentially suppressing your feelings and making it harder to get through the “down and out” state.
Once you begin to say “I’m not fine. I’m really angry. I feel sad. I feel confused”, who knows? The person in front of you could assist you or you could get into a great conversation and learn some tools to help you know yourself better and start feeling great.
Let’s face it, being human is not easy. There are so many distractions, obstacles and challenges every single day.
A lot of people want to project to the world that they are doing great. Sometimes I even do that. But I am here to remind you that I am not perfect and that at the same time I’m working, every day, on my personal development.
What happens when you place one emotion over another?
It’s clear that joy is better than sadness; but honestly who wants to be sad?
In fact, we are not afraid of feeling down and out, we are more afraid of the beliefs of feeling down and out, and that is why it becomes negative.
The great paradox about feeling down and out is that you have to feel every emotion without judgement to move past whatever discomforting feeling you have.
Embracing every discomforting feeling you have, will set you free
We live in a society of instant gratification; where if you feel down and out, you just go to a club and have a few drinks.
While this might seem like a great idea, you are essentially running away from your suppressed feelings.
You have to be able to sit and spend time with your feelings. You have to become very calm and aware of them, without judgment. That is what will free you.
I’ve identified three key aspects that can help you dominate your down and out moments. It’s essential that you act as soon as that feeling appears, you don’t want to wait until you feel depressed and miserable. The sooner you
It’s like any other issue. The sooner you catch a problem, the sooner you can act upon it and expect a greater potential for a better outcome. Here’s the three aspects:
One of the reasons why you might feel down and out is because you are afraid to ask for help. You don’t want to sound weird or scary.
You want to feel like you have everything under control. But that independent mindset can make you fall into the illusion of separation because everything is connected.
So to make the beauty come out of that “down and out” feeling is to gather friends who can support you. Go watch the sunset, go for a walk.
Find the unity, because that’s the truth of you are
Change your environment. By being in nature or walking around your town, will help you put things in perspective. When you feel down and out you have to put things in perspective.
A lot of people lock themselves into their rooms, but in that way they are simply creating their own prison.
Once you go out there into the world, you start to see that actually your problem is not that bad. And even if it is, you get a new perspective.
Another beautiful thing you could do to leave the “down and out” feeling behind, is to look at your diet.
The food that you eat affects how you feel. How you feel affects how you act and who you interact with. So just by eating more healthy foods (I wrote about this here and here), you gain more confidence and you gradually stop feeling down and out.
Remember that it’s ok to feel down and out sometimes. But you have to constantly ask yourself how that feeling is serving you.
It all comes down to placing value on what you do. Only when you start placing value on what you do and acknowledging that you are irreplaceable, then you are able to get out of that “down and out” feeling and develop an abundance mentality.
You have to acknowledge your greatness. You have to be bold enough to live the life you are worthy of.
Once you start realizing that you are enough; you’ll stop feeling down and out. Don’t make “down and out” a permanent state but just a fleeting experience.