How to stop negative thoughts from tearing you apart, from destroying you, from leaving you on the ground without a helping hand?
In our lives we all experience times where we feel really down and most of the times it has to do with how we think.
What can help you transcend and stop negative thoughts?
When you have negative thoughts, you also have positive thoughts. In reality there are no positive or negative thoughts; there are only thoughts. However the meaning that you assign to your thoughts is what shapes what they become and how they affect you on all levels.
Whatever you focus on growths
Let’s take a negative thought you may have. For instance you don’t like looking into the mirror. What happens is that you use avoidance and you hope and pray that there is not a mirror in the places you go, because if you see one you are going to panic.
All anxiety is born from the desire to escape the present moment; therefore, by making yourself neutral, you move closer to what you are afraid of. Every day take a step forward and when you’ll have the courage and the bravery to look into a mirror, you will develop more love for yourself.
But as long as you have this separation, you will create more fear. You stop negative thoughts by embracing them. But not many people want to delve into the shadowland.
How you perceive yourself is everything and a lot of negative thinking emanates from that. If you don’t like how your body looks, it’s always based around resistance. Whatever you resist becomes stronger.
Your mind is a wonderful tool and a powerful filter. Your mind is wonderful at connecting the dots, but that’s as far as it can go. The mind was created for our survival, for getting us from point A to point B. But the mind also creates wars, separation, but most of all it creates false stories, it creates a false sense of self and a false sense of reality.
But the heart is unlimited. The heart knows what the mind can only think of.
How people treat you is a statement about them as a human being and not a statement about yourself. You never have to take anything personally. How someone feels about you is about what they are experiencing and how they are seeing the world. But that’s none of your business.
You have to stay focused on what you are doing and this allows you to live more in your heart than in your mind. Additionally the mind is more about controlling and getting everything perfect, but the heart already is perfect.
How can you be more perfect than the heart?
Growing up you are told that you have to become something, when in essence you already are. If you want to stop negative thoughts you have to cultivate the heart more by forming deeper relationships with those around you. Surround yourself with amazing people. Don’t focus on people that bring you down; focus on the people that love you and that you love.
Many people also have negative thoughts about the world they live in. But remember that the world will only change when you do. It’s all within you. You have to stop taking responsibility because when you start seeing yourself in a more positive regard, those negative thoughts drift away like clouds.
Shakespeare said: “Nothing is good or bad but thinking makes it so”.
Many times when you have negative thoughts, it all comes down to the environment you are in. There is a reason why you should spend more time in nature, because it makes you feel so good and it makes you feel deeper in your heart-space.
When you are in the house instead, in front of the computer, you think more, you analyze more, you judge people on Facebook, on Twitter, on Instagram and this keeps you locked in the mind.
Also, whenever you feel down and low you must ask yourself what kinds of foods you are eating. Everything is connected. Self-care is paramount and essential. If you don’t care for yourself, how do you expect the world to?
Many times the reason why you make negative thoughts is because you become addicted to the story that your mind tells you. The mind is both wonderful and the greatest storyteller in the world at the same time.
The mind always seeks security, but the heart is all about fluidity. So if you want to stop negative thoughts to control you, you have to become more “fluid” and let go.
You can’t clear the mind by putting more into the mind
The greatest way to stop negative thoughts is to let go of who you think you are. Lose your mind and come to your senses. You find your greatest power when you start cultivating the inner child once again.