Comments on: Dealing With Loneliness Without Making Friends

By: John Mark Julaspi

John Mark Julaspi — Wed, 07 Feb 2018 00:34:00 +0000

In reply to Sufian Aziz. I feel you :'(

By: John Mark Julaspi

John Mark Julaspi — Wed, 07 Feb 2018 00:33:00 +0000

Hi! I have a lot of friends but I want to stay apart from them because I am always bringing a problem and this kind of personality hurts them and it hurts me too knowing I can't change this for them. :'( :'( I wanna be alone somehow. I'm tired of myself. :'( The reason why I visited this site and I am surprised knowing i am not alone being alone. :'(

By: Jenn M

Jenn M — Fri, 02 Feb 2018 04:49:00 +0000

In reply to Bexx. It will get better. It has too.

By: Bexx

Bexx — Sat, 27 Jan 2018 23:36:00 +0000

I’m 35 and have always been lonely. Even with a decent size family. I also suffer from anxiety, and depression. Recently the guy I wanted to be with chose someone over me and the pain has been unbearable. Now I’m back in that familiar place. People really don’t understand how hard it is to just wake up every day and continue to live, but I’m not really living.

By: Sufian Aziz

Sufian Aziz — Sat, 16 Dec 2017 17:11:00 +0000

i just feel alone and i cant get away easily

By: Shane K

Shane K — Sun, 05 Mar 2017 15:06:00 +0000

People who write this stuff have no concept of what real loneliness is. “Go spend a few hours on your own right now.” Really? Did you seriously just write that in an article that’s supposed to be about coping with loneliness? I’ve spent the last 8 f*ing years “on my own”. No friends. No life. Just random sporadic encounters that never go anywhere. Just existence. It sucks. I can pretend for a while that its fine and sometimes that works. Some days are better than others, because it’s easier to ignore the loneliness some days when I distract myself by keeping busy with the mundane chores of daily life. But it takes a conscious effort to ignore it. Like pain from an injury that just doesn’t go away so you have to ignore it and keep going. So you occupy your time with things that distract you from the real issues. Develop hobbies and interests that keep your mind focused on something other than how empty you feel and that works for a while. But eventually even those things don’t work anymore and it reaches a point where nothing you do feels worth doing, and you lose interest because you know deep down that it doesn’t matter and it’s not going to change anything. It’s just a distraction. But you push through and do it anyway because it’s all you have to keep your mind occupied. But you can’t stay busy 100% of the time. And when the day winds down and you’re sitting in your empty house watching some pointless crap on tv or youtube or laying in your empty bed, the pain comes back. So you go to sleep where you can dream that you aren’t alone. Where you can go somewhere in your mind to a place where you actually matter to someone else. At least for a while. Until you have to wake up again. And put the happy mask back on and pretend that your life isn’t pointless. What’s the point in life when there’s no one to share it with?

By: David Kriz

David Kriz — Tue, 21 Feb 2017 21:00:00 +0000

This.

I need this perspective so badly every second of my life from now on.

By: tom williams

tom williams — Sun, 19 Jun 2016 22:20:00 +0000

I feel like I have been chronically lonely for most of my life. There were some very good points on this blog.
I do believe that we are humans; and we were meant to be social creatures. There are those who need people a whole lot that they could never survive being totally alone. And then there are those that do OK by themselves, but eventually they need someone.
So for me, I am introverted, so I can do OK just having one or two good friends. I don’t need a lot of people in my life. I can do well going without having someone. But it is very nice to know that I do at least have a friend. I can only go on so long knowing that I am totally friendless and no family. But, it’s better being alone than to be with miserable company.
We have to bear in mind, that people are not perfect. I know that I keep forgetting that myself. People can bring great joy in your life, but they can bring frustrations also. Even the best of friends can let you down at times. And you can let someone down, too.

By: Huda Al-kindawi

Huda Al-kindawi — Thu, 19 May 2016 11:52:00 +0000

i have been feeling lonely my whole life i am now 20 it is not a long time but it is a long time to be alone having no permanent friend, my friend always was my mom but when a few weeks ago i was telling her about a problem that happened in collage and she told me to depend on my self more, i broke down because i was alone and the problem was already solved but i wanted to tell her about seeing as there is nobody to tell, so i stopped telling her about my problems but then i started feeling lonely again and due to not having a lot friends around me here those thoughts started creeping into my mind and i was tired of the way i was feeling lonely not good enough and started questioning what is wrong with me that over the course of my life a find someone to see that they need me and then when they leave i feel the same way all over again so thank you for this article it gave me hope all over again with out the need on somebody to depend on.

By: Matteo Trovato

Matteo Trovato — Sat, 07 Feb 2015 11:42:00 +0000

In reply to jen palovich.

Jen,

Thanks for reading, and I am so glad you enjoyed this. And yes, you are so right! We have to love and cherish our alone time to truly be happy with others. Thank you for helping people recognize how important that is.

Good luck on your journey 🙂