A few weeks ago I had to give a keynote presentation to my local Rotary Club about the habits to create long term happiness. After almost 4 years from my last public speech, when I was at university, this experience brought back to mind my early public presentations of my life.

As a student I gave several presentations in front classmates and professors, but it wasn’t always easy; especially in the beginning I felt terrified.

For some people, being evaluated in social situations such as public speaking, making an appointment or sitting for an exam, is equivalent to experiencing an excruciating pain.

In my case I felt, in part at least, to be under constant evaluation by my audience. I would slowly put myself in defense mode, so that they could not discover my flaws and spot my weaknesses.

Because I saw my audience as the judge of my imperfections, I also believed that they would seize on any misstep and despise me for that.

From my experience, I noticed several factors that could intensify or mitigate the fear during this type of events, and they usually concern vulnerability-related attributes like:

• The status of the evaluator and her power within the society.
• Your skills in presenting an attractive and persuasive “facade”.
• The confidence in your own abilities.
• The evaluation of the degree of threat, of the potential damage and the likelihood of this happening.
• Some automatic defenses like verbal inhibition, memory block and spontaneity control can weaken someone’s performance.
• The anticipation of punishment from the evaluator for a given act that goes against the rules or for a below standard performance.

Self-Confidence

Knowing how to properly cope with certain adverse social events, requires a good degree of self-confidence in your abilities. Your confidence is related to the perceived magnitude of your expectations, your difficulties and the potential punishment derived from a scarce performance.

In certain circumstances your self-confidence can be threatened and weakened:

• When you feel inferior and not good enough to rightfully answer the evaluator’s requests.
• When you fear a negative consequence for a bad performance (job loss, suspension from school or the end of a relationship).

Physiological Reactions

Fear of judgment, not only triggers internal reactions, but external too. Blushing, sense of fatigue, muscular tension and palpitations are some of the most common symptoms.

When I was at university, even before the dreaded event took place, I used to get absorbed by my prophetic fears that soon after would lead me to physical and mental stiffening. That inhibition interfered with the natural expression of myself, my mind got confused and my words got jumbled.

In essence, I undervalued my skills and became more vulnerable.

Overcoming social anxiety, and in particular fear of negative evaluation, is not an easy thing to do; yet many other people, myself included have done it. Although I’m not a certified therapist, I want to show you what has worked for me.

While I was in the middle of this problem, I felt completely despaired – as if it could never get better – until I made these simple adjustments to my life.

Self-Love

When you try to impress someone, you are no longer real and authentic with that person. When you just express yourself, that opens up a whole new channel where you can authentically connect with another human being.

More self-love helped me achieve this result. When you don’t love yourself, the only thing you can use your time for is to worry about what other people think.

The more love you have for yourself, the more you’ll be able to authentically express yourself.

Life is Everywhere

As soon as I realised that it wasn’t only about me, and that there are millions of other people in the world, then it became clear that the world doesn’t have time to think about me.

The majority of the time people are not thinking about you, instead they are thinking about them.

We have to stop being so egocentric and think that the whole world revolves around us.

Don’t Please Everyone

Many people beg to be liked by each and everyone, but we have to remind ourselves that we are not in this world to live up to other people’s expectations. We are here to be ourselves and authentic 100%.

Setting up your own unique value system is an incredible favor you can do yourself. When you allow someone else to give you value, you automatically lose self-confidence.

Give yourself your own definition of value. Do everything for yourself first, before doing it for anyone else.

Accept that you cannot control what other people think of you. You can’t control how people act, you can only control how you respond to their actions.

Leave a comment below if you are going through this process right now. Comment with the steps that you are taking to overcome fear of judgment. Comment if you, like me, overcame fear of judgment and want to share your personal story. Comment if you have questions you want me to answer. Comment also if you hated this post. I love hearing from you!

Here below, you find the “Awesome Random Acts of Kindness Guide” with 88 inspiring deeds on it.

What would be really cool is if you would print it out and when you’re done, you just pass it on to the people that you do the good deeds for.

Enjoy it!

Awesome Random Acts Of Kindness Guide

1. Tell a street performer how amazing he or she is

2. Bring flowers to a nursing home

3. Leave a letter in a library book

4. Leave happy note around town

5. Tell someone why they are special to you

6. Email or write a letter to an old teacher who made a difference in your life

7. Pray for a friend or family member

8. Compliment a stranger

9. Stand up for the underdog

10. Hold a “dog wash” to raise money for a good cause

11. Help someone carry their grocery bags

12. Donate blood

13. Give up your seat on a bus

14. Leave flowers on someone’s car

15. Praise the work of others

16. Befriend with a lonely person

17. Help someone whose car has broken down

18. Bring dog/cat food to a shelter

19. Forgive someone. Repeat as necessary.

20. Give away stuff you don’t use anymore for free

21. Do a chore for someone without them knowing

22. Do something nice for yourself

23. Greet everyone you see

24. Give an unexpected gift

25. Call your parents and tell them you love them

26. Lend your knowledge and expertise

27. Make two lunches and give one for free

28. Leave a colouring book and crayons in a hospital waiting room

29. Sit with someone who is eating alone

30. Buy dessert for someone at a restaurant anonymously

31. Clean someone’s windshield

32. Put sticky notes with positive words in public places

33. Smile at others

34. Give cold drinks to road workers in the summer months and hot drinks in the winter time

35. Help lost people in your city

36. Make someone laugh

37. Give your neighbour a treat

38. Give coupons for someone to use at the grocery store

39. Share your umbrella with someone who didn’t bring one

40. Hug random people

41. Write a thank you note

42. Let a car in front of you merge

43. Plant a tree

44. Surprise someone who lives far away by visiting them unexpectedly

45. Return someone’s cart at the store

46. Connect people to each other

47. Leave cookies for the mailman

48. Pay someone’s parking meter

49. Bring in your neighbour’s trash cans

50. Be empathetic

51. Let someone go in line in front of you

52. Let someone take your parking spot

53. Buy a dozen flowers and hand them out to random people

54. Walk dogs at the shelter

55. Donate used clothing

56. Hold the door open for someone

57. Be encouraging

58. Be understanding

59. If you’re just thinking nice things about a person, text them to let them know.

60. Be kind to someone you dislike

61. Tell a stranger in the dressing room who is shopping alone that something looks great on them.

62. Buy a coffee for the person behind you

63. Offer a ride to someone who is car-less

64. Donate used books to the library

65. Send a handmade card to someone

66. Make a donation in your name to a charity

67. Offer a meal to a homeless person

68. Be thoughtful

69. Wash someone’s car for free

70. Bake a treat for someone

71. Take the time to listen to someone’s story

72. Offer to fix something broken at your friend’s or parents’ house

73. Leave a generous tip

74. Be patient

75. Call a homeless shelter. Ask what they need. Bring it.

76. Pick up litter

77. Help someone with yard work

78. Be thankful

79. Bring donuts to work

80. Offer to take a picture for tourists

81. Say thank you to a janitor

82. Buy parking passes to give to parents of children in the hospital

83. Make a memory box for someone you are with little paper notes of all the things you did together over the years and give it to them

84. Drop off bus tickets to a shelter

85. Offer to walk your neighbor’s dog

86. Leave “Have a happy day” on the windshield of as many cars as possible

87. Help an elderly person or someone in need to cross the street

88. Share this list to encourage other to do Random Acts of Kindness

What are you waiting for? Let’s change the world together, and if you can’t print out the list, you can also help out by just sharing this post on Facebook and Twitter.

If we spread it across the internet enough, maybe this list will go around the whole world.

Until next time.

This type of worth society puts on failures hinders us from either trying again in case something bad happened during our first attempt or worse, from taking the plunge towards our first step.

As much as we love hearing success stories, we also have to get comfortable to include failures in our thought process and recognize the benefits it triggers.

Benefit of Failure n.1: You Learn Precious and Unforgettable Lessons

More often than not, failure takes place when we make mistakes. Several are the reasons that lead us to make mistakes.

We make mistakes because we decide to take the road less-traveled and for this reason we find ourselves in unexplored territories.

In this scenario, all we have in mind is our final destination but we don’t really know how to get there except by continuously experimenting until we succeed.

Another reason why we make mistakes is because we tend to follow the exact same path traveled by others before us. unfortunately without taking into consideration the different external and internal factors such as timing, personal knowledge and

Unfortunately, if this is the case, we don’t take into consideration the different external and internal factors such as timing, personal knowledge and support network, that can easily have an influence on our ultimate goal.

All the mistakes we make and the failures that eventually follow, are able to shed light on the false steps we’ve taken and teach us how not to blunder if we’ll ever face a similar experience in the future.

Benefit of Failure n.2: You Become More Receptive To Advices

The more you experience failure the more you are willing to accept external help.

As showed in the previous point, a stable circle of friends, peers and mentors can sometimes be the ultimate success factor for whatever you are trying to accomplish.

What happens in reality, especially if we are at our first experience, is that we get caught up by the enthusiasm of the moment and become pretty much insensitive to the external world.

Surrounding yourself with like-minded people is an excellent way to easily bounce off ideas and get valuable feedback whether you are just starting out or you are well on your path towards success.

There are times when an external perspective can be immensely valuable and help you avoid mistakes that you would have otherwise made.

Benefit of Failure n.3: You Gain More Clarity

Sometimes failure comes from over-complicated processes or from us wanting to score too many points all at once.

We may lose sight of the reason why we started our journey, we may get distracted by other interesting opportunities that often enter into conflict with our initial goal.

Failure helps us refocus our energy on the important stuff.

Regularly questioning the “why” of what you are doing is necessary to reapprove or revise your end goal. A clear objective is required to identify what is of primary importance or unnecessary.

Benefit of Failure n.4: You’ll Find Out Who Is Your True Friend

When things go well, friends and peers seem to naturally want to stay at your side.

But as soon as the waters get a little rough and you need support, you’ll start seeing who is really willing to help you in this moment of temporary adversity and who instead decides to distance himself from the situation.

It’s important for you, at any moment of your journey, to talk and share your ideas with trusted people.

Talking about failure is as important as the failure itself; it helps you accept it and advance faster towards whatever goal you might have.

Benefit of Failure n.5: Failure Is The Catalyst For Change

By now you should see failure as a good thing.

Failure gives you the chance to start anew, with more knowledge and certainly with more confidence.

You hopefully learned from your mistakes and now you have more tools that will propel you towards greater successes.

To Recap

Failure is by far the fastest and most effective way to learn new things.

If you think carefully, the greatest learnings of our lives don’t come when things just flow nice and easy, but rather when we struggle and have to learn how to stand up and find the balance, without falling too many times and getting hurt.

I end today’s article with a brilliant quote by Maya Angelou, which will certainly inspire you to take action and stop avoiding failure.

You may encounter many defeats, but you must not be defeated. In fact, it may be necessary to encounter the defeats, so you can know who you are, what you can rise from, how you can still come out of it.

The reason why it’s not good to answer “I am fine”, whenever you feel down and out, is because you are essentially suppressing your feelings and making it harder to get through the “down and out” state.

Once you begin to say “I’m not fine. I’m really angry. I feel sad. I feel confused”, who knows? The person in front of you could assist you or you could get into a great conversation and learn some tools to help you know yourself better and start feeling great.

Let’s face it, being human is not easy. There are so many distractions, obstacles and challenges every single day.

A lot of people want to project to the world that they are doing great. Sometimes I even do that. But I am here to remind you that I am not perfect and that at the same time I’m working, every day, on my personal development.

What happens when you place one emotion over another?

It’s clear that joy is better than sadness; but honestly who wants to be sad?

In fact, we are not afraid of feeling down and out, we are more afraid of the beliefs of feeling down and out, and that is why it becomes negative.

The great paradox about feeling down and out is that you have to feel every emotion without judgement to move past whatever discomforting feeling you have.

Embracing every discomforting feeling you have, will set you free

We live in a society of instant gratification; where if you feel down and out, you just go to a club and have a few drinks.

While this might seem like a great idea, you are essentially running away from your suppressed feelings.

You have to be able to sit and spend time with your feelings. You have to become very calm and aware of them, without judgment. That is what will free you.

I’ve identified three key aspects that can help you dominate your down and out moments. It’s essential that you act as soon as that feeling appears, you don’t want to wait until you feel depressed and miserable. The sooner you

It’s like any other issue. The sooner you catch a problem, the sooner you can act upon it and expect a greater potential for a better outcome. Here’s the three aspects:

1. Friends

One of the reasons why you might feel down and out is because you are afraid to ask for help. You don’t want to sound weird or scary.

You want to feel like you have everything under control. But that independent mindset can make you fall into the illusion of separation because everything is connected.

So to make the beauty come out of that “down and out” feeling is to gather friends who can support you. Go watch the sunset, go for a walk.

Find the unity, because that’s the truth of you are

2. Environment

Change your environment. By being in nature or walking around your town, will help you put things in perspective. When you feel down and out you have to put things in perspective.

A lot of people lock themselves into their rooms, but in that way they are simply creating their own prison.

Once you go out there into the world, you start to see that actually your problem is not that bad. And even if it is, you get a new perspective.

3. Food

Another beautiful thing you could do to leave the “down and out” feeling behind, is to look at your diet.

The food that you eat affects how you feel. How you feel affects how you act and who you interact with. So just by eating more healthy foods (I wrote about this here and here), you gain more confidence and you gradually stop feeling down and out.

Remember that it’s ok to feel down and out sometimes. But you have to constantly ask yourself how that feeling is serving you.

It all comes down to placing value on what you do. Only when you start placing value on what you do and acknowledging that you are irreplaceable, then you are able to get out of that “down and out” feeling and develop an abundance mentality.

You have to acknowledge your greatness. You have to be bold enough to live the life you are worthy of.

Once you start realizing that you are enough; you’ll stop feeling down and out. Don’t make “down and out” a permanent state but just a fleeting experience.

How do you stop avoiding people and start accepting yourself?

Basically, people who don’t accept themselves is because they try too hard to be liked by other people. But the truth of the matter is that when other people love you, it is not a prerequisite for inner wellness.

When you accept yourself fully, that is the only prerequisite for inner wellness; because it all starts with you.

Many people say they don’t accept themselves. They don’t like their body, they feel they don’t want to be where they are, they don’t like their job but at the same time they say they can’t change.

In essence, they don’t like their life situation.

It’s my belief that self-acceptance depends on three central areas of your life. By working on all these three aspects at the same time, you’ll be able to significantly increase your self-acceptance and self-esteem, without the risk to incur more awkward moments.

The three areas you need to work on are: your relationship with your body, your relationship with your mind and your relationship with your heart.

1. Are you comfortable in your skin? Do you love your body?

When you don’t like your body, when you despise it, what happens?

This affects your behavior in every single action you make and by consequence, this also affects every single interaction you have. I have seen that to embrace your body 100%, you first have to be ok with your flaws.

So many of us are trying to fit in. Many people want to look like supermodels or want to have a six pack. But ask yourself this: Does trying to fit in, looking like a supermodel or having a six pack, help you become the greatest version of yourself?

All of those things are based on someone else’s perception of you, but the perception you have of yourself is greater than the perception other people have of you.

You will notice that your confidence will start to grow once you’ll let go of the structure that our society is built upon.

Many people keep themselves in the same pattern for the majority of their lives. Therefore, it’s scary for them to do something new.

I found that setting challenges and taking risks, has allowed me to accept myself more over time and to separate myself from the masses.

You are here to express yourself freely and to connect with those who remind you who you are.

2. Do you have control over your thoughts?

Getting past low self-acceptance is almost entirely a mindset thing. The right attitude can move mountains.

How many things do you believe which don’t really serve you?

For example, you might say: “I can’t make new friends. I’m below others”. These thoughts come from an identification of yourself with the inability to make new friends, for that reason you become what you are tuned into.

Instead, you should say “I am worthy. I can find new friends”.

Changing the words you use, changes how you see yourself. Talk to yourself with care because the greatest friend and the greatest enemy lies within yourself.

You have to keep close eyes on yourself all the time.

He who says he can and he who says he can’t are both usually right – Confucius

3. Are you connected to the environment around yourself?

A lot of us are afraid to feel. Therefore, we are afraid to accept.

Many people, in our modern society, have become desensitized. But more importantly they have become disconnected from their environment.

I found that just by reconnecting back to nature you can learn so much.

Nature is patient. Nature just takes things slow. A lot of people instead are constantly rushing around.

If you can’t accept yourself, can you at least feel yourself?

Every day I am setting myself daring challenges to get enough dopamine go around my body and to give me the right boost of confidence.

Accepting yourself just starts by doing it. Plunge yourself into your greatest fear and tell me what happens. Most of us just think of the worst case scenario, “What if it goes wrong?”. But I say: “What if it goes right?”.

When I started to transcend this whole fear of it “going wrong” or “going right”, it freed me because it’s all about seeing that your mistakes are part of who you are as a person. In reality, there are no mistakes. It’s all a continuous process.

Once you tap into that secret, you can create anything forever because you let go of this resistance to the truth of who you are.

You have so much to share. Don’t let a belief system stop you. Love yourself and focus on what you are most grateful for.

And when you start to share what you are most grateful for, that’s when you start to accept yourself.

Share with me what you are most grateful for in your life right now and start to accept yourself from now on.

I don’t see it like that. For me, it is a liberating feeling where you can recharge, reflect, get to know yourself, accept yourself and tell yourself that you are good enough.

So why do a lot of us feel afraid of being alone?

From the moment you are born, your parents have already made plans for you: what school you are going to go to, who you are going to meet and where you are going to go on holiday.

We spend the majority of our lives rushing around.

So, the little calm time that we get, many of us feel like we are stranger to ourselves because we have not built that intimate relationship with ourselves.

The more you reconnect back to yourself, the more energy you will have for other people. More energy for yourself helps you appreciate other people more. More energy for yourself helps you see the world from a wider perspective.

There is a difference between being alone and being isolated.

Being alone is where you reconnect back to the truth of who you are. Being isolated is where you are separate from the truth of who you are. Many people may be around a lot of people but isolated because they are separate from them.

Now it’s a wonderful time to get in touch with your emotions. The emotions are your inner guidance system.

Getting in touch with your emotions helps you to let go, it helps you to surrender to the greater part of yourself and it helps you stop absorbing a lot of toxic energy from the outside world.

Don’t be afraid of being alone. There are lot worst things.

Everything starts with a feeling and you decide that that feeling is loneliness.

Then you naturally assume this feeling is created by being alone, and since you believe this feeling of loneliness is created by being alone, you believe it will be fixed if you can find friends or a romantic partner.

If you then try to make friends or find a romantic partner but don’t succeed, you start to believe that there is something wrong with you.

Once you tell yourself this story, all of a sudden, shame, depression and a feeling of lack come over you.

Since you believe you can’t find friends because there’s something wrong with you, then you trigger a negative thoughts spiral within your mind that you will never find friends or a romantic partner in your life.

When you have this belief about the future and that there is no hope for you, then your depression and loneliness also turn into despair. You sort of give up on life.

That creates a whole increasing of intensity of your suffering and adding a layer upon layer to your loneliness makes it really hard to live life with any happiness at all.

So how can you distance yourself from this sense of loneliness?

The first thing you need to do in dealing with loneliness is to ask yourself what is the number one most important thing in life for you.

If you’ve been feeling lonely, the answer for you might be: “I want friends or a boyfriend or a girlfriend more than I want anything else”. But I want to tell you that you don’t actually want that.

What you really want is peace and happiness more than anything else, and you happen to think that a friend or a lover will give you that happiness.

If I were to give you two choices:

1) Have a lot of friends, have a boyfriend or a girlfriend but suffer all the time and still feel insecure.

2) You stay alone, but you feel completely happy, fulfilled, joyous and with no depression.

Which of those options would you choose?

At this point, you may think that those two options are completely impossible; that if you have friends you are guaranteed to be happy and that if you are alone you are guaranteed to be suffering.

But for most of us, if we are willing to look honestly at ourselves and our lives, we would choose to be alone and be happy all the time.

Thoughts

In order to lose that feeling of loneliness, you first have to understand what is causing it. You think it’s caused by being alone, by not having friends or a romantic partner.

But if being alone created the feeling of loneliness, then you would be forced to feel lonely in every single moment that you are alone. Is that the case? Of course not.

In some moments that you are alone, you are enjoying yourself. Maybe you are playing video games, maybe you are drawing or maybe you are just reading a book. But the point is that in some moments you don’t feel lonely when you are alone.

Here’s an incredible video that demonstrates just that.

Being alone can’t cause loneliness.

It has to be something else, and that something else is THOUGHTS.

At any moment that you are distracted from your thoughts, you feel fine and there is no loneliness.

But suddenly a thought pops up that says, “if I had friends, life would be better” – and then you feel alone again.

What’s the only thought that creates loneliness?

The thought or belief that causes loneliness is the idea that friends or lovers create happiness.

As soon as you believe that a friend or a lover is needed to be happy, then all of a sudden you feel like something is missing now and that you need to be happy because you feel lacking and lonely.

But on top of that you also believe that you’ll never be happy if you don’t make friends or get a lover, and that creates anxiety.

Lastly, if you are even in a situation where you are with a romantic interest or you are with potential friends; since you believe it would be so great if they liked you and so bad if they don’t, all of a sudden you feel a great pressure on you.

You start to believe that you need to say the right things so that they will like you, that you need to think of smart things to say, that you have to make sure you don’t seem anxious, so they will all like you.

All that together creates inauthenticity, it creates a struggle to speak, a struggle to interact freely and a struggle to even enjoy conversations.

If you think friends or lovers can make you happy, then you place so much importance and emphasis on them that you don’t actually enjoy interactions with them because you are constantly afraid of whether they will like you or not.

How do you get out of that trap?

You have to simply recognize that friends or lovers can’t make you happy. They can’t make you happy at all, and here’s why.

We tend to look at happiness as if it is like a sweater that we just put on us. But happiness is actually the opposite of that.

When you were a child, why were you happy? Not because you got everything you wanted, but because you didn’t have the thoughts that create suffering.

What thoughts create suffering?

Thoughts about the future create anxiety.

Thoughts about the past create sadness.

Thoughts about others create judgment.

Thoughts about yourself create insecurity.

Thoughts about other’s opinions create worry.

So when you say that friends and lovers can make you happy, what you really say is that a friend or a lover can delete the thoughts in your head that make you unhappy, or that friends and lovers can change your relationship with the thoughts in your head. That’s not true.

Everyone seems to be in agreement that friends and lovers can create happiness, when it’s so obvious that they don’t. They cannot get rid of the thoughts that make you unhappy.

Friends can distract you from your thoughts, but as soon as you are alone you go right back to them.

Instead of saying, “Can something make me happy?”; you need to reverse that question to, “Can something delete the thoughts that make me suffer?”.

What To Do Next?

If friends can’t make you happy or a lover can’t make you happy, then what hope do you have?

First of all, if none of those things can make you happy, and none of those things are needed to be happy, then you are not missing anything that you need to be happy.

You are at no disadvantage whatsoever for being happy. In fact you are at advantage, because most people never look at the thoughts in their head and they never question what’s causing their suffering.

Any time that you feel alone ask yourself, “What story am I telling in this moment? What do I want most in life?”

You can be happy alone, doing anything that you want to do, if you just simply don’t believe the thoughts that tell your life isn’t good enough.

You Are Good Enough

Finally, you have to get rid of the idea that if you can’t make friends or can’t get a romantic lover there is something wrong with you.

I’m here to tell you there is nothing wrong with you. Just because the people around you don’t like you, it doesn’t mean there is something wrong with you. It means you are not the right fit.

When someone says “I don’t want to be your friend” or when someone seems to think you are bad in some way, it’s not that you are actually bad, you are just not the right match.

You are fine as you are until a story tries to convince you in your imagination that you are not.

If you want to be free of loneliness and you want to be happy by yourself, all you have to do at any moment that you feel lonely, is to question whether the thoughts you are having are true.

But here’s two things I want you to do after you finish reading this post:

Go spend a few hours on your own right now.

Come back here and tell us how it went. I have no doubts you’ll have something to talk about!

If you are one of those people who are used to wake up at 1 o’clock, 2 o’clock or even later in the afternoon, you also know how bad it is to only have two or three hours of sunshine left during those days. Also, in the long run, this routine is going to affect you natural biorhythm.

You have to realize that as you rise with the sun you become in alignment with the sun because you are in resonance with that specific energy, on the Planet, at that specific time.

By waking up early, you are more receptive to new ideas and this makes you feel happier. Being happier doesn’t necessarily mean going over the top and constantly laugh.

Being happier is about equilibrium, balance, mental and emotional stability. It’ about being grounded.

Everyday we reborn

Before you go to bed you are a caterpillar, during sleep you are in the cocoon and when you wake up you should be the butterfly.

But what happens if when you wake up you are still the caterpillar and you don’t want to move or go anywhere? There are days when you might feel you have nothing to offer yourself, more so the world around you.

What happens when you have low confidence levels? What happens when you have low self-esteem level? You wake up hating yourself, you wake up feeling resentful to yourself and not happy at all.

What can you do to get out of bed feeling happier?

1. Focus on gratitude consciousness

   What are you most thankful for? What are you most grateful for? Once you spend even one minute focusing on it, this sets the tone of your day.

   You realize that your life is not as bad as you think it is. The mind can make you believe whatever it wants.

2. Move Your Body

   Move your body as soon as you wake up. Stretch, go for a walk, breathe some fresh air. By doing so, you unblock the stagnant energy that you generate from lying in one position for many hours.

3. Eat Light

   Eating heavy foods, especially processed foods right before bed, is like sleeping on a bed of nails.

   Just by eating more plant-based foods, incorporating more fruits and vegetables into your diet and not eating so late, you will see yourself waking up with much more energy and vitality.

4. Let Love Guide You

   What happens when people project their fears on to us? That’s why many people don’t wake up feeling happy, because they absorb so much negative energy throughout the day that they are simply too tired and dishearten to wake up.

   The people you surround yourself with are instrumental in helping you wake up with energy.

Many times is all about how you see yourself. Are you talking down to yourself? Are you ruminating on the ifs, the buts and the whens? Is your mind in the past, in the future or in the present moment?

Waking up healthier, happier and with more energy is always a choice. This choice you have is predetermined from your attitude.

Many people don’t realize that they don’t have all the time in the world. That is why they are still in the caterpillar phase. The butterfly, on the other hand, knows that there is only now and that’s why it flies.

Many people think about overcoming self-doubt, but it rarely works. The more you think about your doubts, the more your doubts multiply and will never disappear.

Think of thoughts as frozen actions. The heart has no fear until you think about it. Once you can move out of your thinking, out of your mind, out your head and get more into your body, then you can overcome self-doubt.

A lot of our doubts are present because of what we have been told from our childhood; this is what we call the social conditioning.

To overcome self-doubt, you have to make friends with the fears you have.

Many people doubt themselves because they are attempting to fit in. But ask yourself, “What is normal? Who is normal?” The world is full of people copying someone else, but everyone is unique in their own way.

To overcome self-doubt you have to embrace your uniqueness.

To deal with self-doubt and overcome it, you have to let go of fear (false evidence appearing real). A lot of self-doubt arises because we think someone is thinking what we are thinking. That is impossible because there is no one who sees the world with the same lens as you do.

To overcome self-doubt you have to stay grounded and let go of who you think you are and become who you truly are. A lot of people dealing with self-doubt have a hundred different voices in their head.

Which voice do you listen to? How do you make the right choice?

To make the right choice you have to reconnect back to the guide within which is your intuition. That voice within you is your guide. The problem is: what happens when you have 100 voices? You have 100 different guides. Who is telling the truth?

You have to see what is in your environment that is distracting you from hearing your true authentic voice.

More so, you have to realize that all of us have both positive and negative self talks. The secret is to embrace the positive self-talk which inspires you, but also to embrace the negative self-talk.

By doing so, you let go of the duality and can begin to see things in their exact way.

Be free. Do the things you fear the most and have courage because fear will be your greatest setback. Let love guide you.

To overcome self-doubt you have to let go of what other people think of you and to do this, you have not to identify with the person. Whenever you allow someone else to give you value, you lose confidence. Create your own value system.

True confidence comes from within and that is what is needed to get rid of self-doubt.

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The more honest and transparent you are with yourself, the more you are going to find amazing new connections because everything is going to align to your same frequency.

If you are in the wrong crowd, don’t blame the crowd, just move in the direction of where your heart is pulling you towards.

Would you rather not go out with someone and be honest or go out with someone and be dishonest?

You have family, you have friends, you have classmates, you have coworkers and each one of them has a different perspective.

You don’t want everyone to agree with you. You are not here to please everyone. You are not here to get everyone on board and be like you. That would be too boring.

You are here just to express yourself 100% and because of that you are going to attract amazing people.

You are your own worst enemy. It’s great to be alone, but it’s even better to meet your reflection.

It’s all about self care, it’s all about loving yourself 100% and saying, “I am good enough”.

Be notorious. Be crazy. Be bizarre. You are going to meet people who are going to accept you for who you really are and not for who you pretend to be.

You have to let go of society’s expectations. That is the only way to fly and be free.

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