Fear is nothing more than an obstacle that stands in the way of progress. In overcoming our fears we can move forward, stronger and wiser within ourselves.
F.E.A.R. is False Evidence Appearing Real. Fear is a self-created feeling created from an imaginary belief based on the illusion of separation.
Many people have fears about all kinds of things. The greatest ones may be dying, it may be rejection or it may be the commitment in relationships.
Fear, though, is never in the present moment. Fear is either in the past or in the future. To let go of fear, you have to tap into the present moment.
The power is in the now
You have to recognize that fear is the greatest energy vampire in your life, and the more you are in fear, the more you lose your energy.
Letting go of fear is an ongoing process and you have to work at it every single day. Working on your fears for a day or two isn’t hard, but it doesn’t bring the necessary results either.
If you are serious about letting go of your fears, then you have to be focused and consistent in following these seven habits.
Face Your Fear
Look at your fears straight in the eyes. Feel the fear and do it anyway. You have to embrace the challenges fear offers to you, because fear always makes you raise higher.
Fear never takes place. Fear is when you are waiting for something to happen. Fear is the anticipation, and when something you fear happens, then you start looking for another fear.
What is the worst that could happen? And when it does happen, how bad was it? How did it make you feel?
You see, the way most people deal with fear is by dodging any experience, place or circumstance that evokes the emotion. By dodging these “fearful” situations, they essentially inhibit themselves from getting used to them instead. In essence, the fearful situation remains unknown.
Additionally, when we start to avoid a particular experience or situation, we are more inclined to generalize it in the long run.
If you have a fear of your next door neighbor’s dog, you’ll soon start to be scared and have fear of all the other dogs that you’ll encounter in your life. A by-product of this continuous escape from your fears is a growing feeling of defeat.
(Photo: katiew)To let go of fear, you have to expose yourself to those fear-provoking experiences. Yes, it can be annoying in the short-term, but that’s the small price you have to pay to live a life free of draining and enervating fears.
You will see that once you’ve overcome one fear, you’ll want to overcome another one.
Do Not Externalize Your Power
Being fearful means giving away your power to someone you feel is superior to you.
Whenever you externalize your power, you start seeing yourself as a victim and whenever you see yourself as a victim, you will always remain in fear.
You have to take back your power to overcome fear. Once you realize that you are the architect of your own reality and that you are creating your life based on your thoughts and feelings, then you’ll be free of fear.
You turn into whatever you are tuned into.
You have to remember that you must not let anyone place value over your own life. You have to give yourselves your unique value system. Not externalizing your power is all about taking responsibility for your feelings.
You chose how you respond to everything that happens to you.
Do Not Justify Your Fear
You are fearful because so and so happened to you in the past.
When you rationalize your fear, you always become a prisoner of your fear because you are having a reason for holding on to them.
(Photo: Mitzo)When you no longer have an excuse for your fear, when you no longer justify it, you can move past the fear.
Self-Love
Self-love helps you build a greater self-esteem, it helps you face challenges hence, expand your comfort zone.
Self-love allows you to look at things from different angles and put them in perspective.
Self-love makes you more flexible so that when something unpleasant happens, you are able to manage the situation without letting the fear get the better of you.
Change Your Belief
Once you can change your mind, you can change your world.
Essentially, you change your relationship you have to fear. In fact, many of our fears emanate from not feeling good enough.
Beliefs are powerful. If you say, “I can overcome this fear” then you are right. If you say, “I cannot overcome this fear”, then you are also right.
You have to look at the words you use. Words are powerful vibrations. By changing the words you use, you can overcome certain fears.
Use words as positive affirmations to heal yourself. Use words to uplift you and to inspire you.
Let Go Of Judgement
The more you judge, the more you separate. Separation is the foundation of fear. Separation is the cause, everything else is the effect.
Why do we judge other people? It is because we feel intimidated by their presence.
So long as you have fears in your heart, you can never be free. You have to be aware every single second of the day where you are directing your energy.
Are you focusing on what you want or are you focusing on what you fear?
The only thing to fear about fear, is fear itself.
Is this feeling of fear that you create serving you or is it taking away your energy?
Love Your Body
To overcome fear you have to release tension within the body, that way you release the tension within the mind.
Alignment within your body creates alignment within your mind.
Much of your fear is muscle memory; it’s stored within your body. How you carry yourself externally, it’s how you feel internally.
(Photo: Matt)To overcome the fear of a certain experience, you must change your reaction to that experience before you change the interaction with that experience.
You don’t have control over what happens to you; you only have control of how you respond. Everything is based on how you respond; that determines how long the fear will stay with you.
Fear breeds a whole host of other negative emotions such as guilt, anxiety, panic and stress. It builds up to a crescendo until eventually you become stuck.
You eventually turn into the very things you are afraid of. You have to realize that you are powering your own reality and that you are the glue that holds everything in place.
You ultimately came here to discover who you are and to live free.
Fear less!
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